Second Law of Love: Desire

It is believed that if we want something very much, we will get it. Everything we need begins as a desire in our minds. We desire the thing so much that we are willing to sacrifice all to get it. Desire is the basis for gain, which is also the reason we aspire for lofty causes. The law of desire is to have a yearning, a strong desire to love.

To desire something entails having a particular deficiency which needs to be fulfilled. Love is like a debt that we owe. We have a need, a debt to pay. The burden is on the debtor, not the creditor, to pay. So it is with love. When we look at life from this vantage, harmony and goodwill on earth become eminent. The fact that we owe each other love ties us to one another and strengthens the bonds among us.

Desire leads to action. This is why one of the ingredients of the law of love is having a strong desire. When you concentrate your energies on one particular thing, chances are, you will succeed. But if you truncate them, you will receive only partial results.

Love subscribes to the law of desire exponentially. The more you love something, the more it increases in value. The more you love someone, the more he or she gains in terms of beauty, bounty, or buoyancy. Similarly, love does not subtract, unless such an act will lead to something positive. If someone is only receiving from you without giving back, it is a clear sign that the affair is one-sided.

Love should be a giving affair. Good lovers are those who add value to one another. Good lovers improve each other. Similarly, good friends add beauty to each other's lives. How does love add? One way is for one person to say positive things about the other. The other is by encouraging and wishing only the best for the other. Love is also added through positive critique, loving reprimands, and friendly rebukes, which are purely meant to bring good to the parties involved. It is also added by the person giving gifts and doing things for the beloved.

Love takes a nobody and turns him into somebody. It embraces a seeming failure and polishes him into something admirable. Find something good; love will make it even better. Love is not greed: it does not only look at what it will get, but at what it will give. Love takes something rough and refines it. It takes a nonentity and brings him into the limelight. Here is my free piece of advice. If you’ve been struggling to love, do this: make a point in somebody’s life; add something to him or her. Give something to someone in need, or better still, try saying some kind words to someone who is discouraged.